Life will bring all of us something we never planned for, never even imagined. By it's very nature the unexpected is uncomfortable, many times down right difficult. Hindsight gives us the ability to understand why something may have happened by revealing where it has brought us. It doesn't, however, help us while we trudge through the unexpected.
The emotions that go along with any difficulty are unavoidable. Our attitude depends on our beliefs, how overwhelmed we are, how much support we have, our outlook on life, our sense of self worth, our temperament/personality type, and our past experiences. Our actions will depend on what choices we see, with the influence of our emotions and our attitude.
The following is a meditation that a friend recently sent to me that seems appropriate. In difficult times it is sometimes helpful to view our concerns in a Godly perspective ...
Living According to God's Plan
Why do you take pleasure in tormenting yourself, as you do, over the future? Your faith teaches you that the future is in the hands of a Father who is infinitely good, Who loves you more than you love yourself and Who understands your interests far better than you. Have you forgotten that everything that happens is directed by the orders of Divine Providence? But if we know this how can we hesitate to remain in a state of humble submission, in the most trifling as in the greatest events, to all that God wishes or permits? How blind we are when we desire anything other than what God wishes. He alone knows the dangers which threaten us in the future and the help which we shall need. I am firmly convinced that we should all be lost if God gave us all our desires, and that is why, as Saint Augustine says, God, in His mercy and compassion for our blindness, does not always grant our prayers, and sometimes gives us the contrary of what we ask as being in reality better for us. In truth, I often think that nearly all of us are in this world in the position of poor-sick people who in their frenzy or delirium ask for the very thing that would cause their death and who have to be refused out of pure charity and an enlightened pity.
~Father Jean-Piere De Caussade, S.J. (1751)
"Sometimes, God hands us something we never expected that ends up leading us to something so unexpectedly wonderful, it changes our life forever ..."